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Celebrating 1 Month, 100 Likes and Followers

19 Aug

About a month ago, I started this blog.adele

At the same time,  a month ago, my ex got married.  (Please don’t judge me).

[Side note:  In case you didn’t know:

  • Number of months since I last saw/spent time with him:  4
  • Number of months ago that we last discussed reconsidering marriage:  3
  • Number of months after we “officially” ended things that he got married: 3
  • Number of days ago that I closed our joint account:  2
  • Number of things left to dispose of that remind me of him:  1 pair of extremely comfy boxers]

And while the inception of this blog was a very bitter one, YOU ALL have been making it that much sweeter.

Truth of the matter is I never imagined in a million years that Adele’s hit single, Someone Like You, would become the soundtrack of my life.  Never imagined I would feel that way about anyone until… him.  (Heck, I was kinda glad to get rid of the other exes, truth be told).

I never thought I would even think about pulling an Adele, like seriously, turning up out of the blue uninvited to tell him it’s not over for you even after he is married and has already moved on?

Like get a life.  Seriously…

Better yet get a new man…

Leave him alone…

(This is how I used to think)

But… you live… you love… and sometimes you lose people that you love before death does you part.  Sometimes for reasons you can’t control and other times for reasons you caused.  And when love hurts, then songs like hers make perfect sense.

And if you’re lucky enough you can make some type of fame, fortune, success or a really good hit song out it (or in my case a blog :-D)

So as I celebrate one month of blogging here I have to celebrate you my readers, followers, fans and friends!!!baloons


Your support through this time has been invaluable!!! (Can’t believe people actually read this stuff.  You guys so rock for that!!!)

Now the good stuff.  Some blog stats I am proud to share (in one month’s time):

  • Number of Followers:  124
  • Number of Likes:  100
  • Number of Views:  1,076
  • Most views in one day:  88
  • Top Three Posts:
  1. Be Selfish (12 Likes)
  2. Compare Him to Other Men (9 Likes)
  3. Refuse to Be Happy (8 Likes)
  • Top Two Most Commented on Posts:
  1. About-How to Ruin Got Started:  13 comments
  2. Hang Up on Him:  7 comments
  • Top Posts my Mom Laughed the Hardest at while reading: (she could relate to them the most lol)
  1. Hang Up on Him
  2. Let Yourself Go
  • Published a total of :  21 Posts
  • Total Number of Comments:  60 (mine included :-))

(Special shout out to those nominees who so graciously responded: College Thrive, Truth’s Unveiling, Some Fabulous Chick’s Blog)

(To those nominees who are so busy being so wonderful: ThingsmyexsaidTanara McCauley, Single, Not HopelessFLAWSOME GLAMOf Fries and Men, Date Laugh Repeat, 1 Year of Single I still think you are wonderful. I’m. Still. Waiting ;-))

And like Adele, there are some things I’ll remember he said

  • In love you have to choose your battles (everything can’t be an argument).
  • Don’t be a victim (acknowledge the part you play in things and the choices you make).
  • The only thing better than being single is being with the right person and the only thing better than being with the wrong person is being single.
  • Don’t tell someone you’re leaving if you really don’t intend on leaving.

And there you have it folks.  The run down.  One month and counting for How To Ruin A Relationship… but ehh who’s counting?

The Idea of Being “Forever Alone”

29 Jul

I just had to share this! I’m sure you will enjoy it as much as I did…

Creative Writing is fun, right?

In recent years since the creation of this meme, people have taken the liberty of using it to describe the summation of their entire dating life (even the parts that haven’t happened yet). I am here to call bullshit on that entire trend!

If you aren’t in your 70s (or older) and haven’t ever been in a romantic relationship with ANYONE, you are not forever alone. If you’re not on your deathbed at this very moment in time and have never been in a relationship with anyone, you do not get to say that you’re forever alone.

The people who mostly say this are between the ages of 13 and 29 (huge age range!), and are now really getting into the world of dating. Dating is a trial and error thing, as I’ve stated in a previous post, with lots of errors. You’re not always going to be in a…

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Liebster award; nice to be noticed

23 Jul


Yet another way to ruin a relationship…. receive an award for sharing how you screwed up with your ex!!!!  Yes!!!!!



What an angel The Wandering Angel is for flying by and nominating me for this award!   And if you don’t know, now you know that Wandering Angel has some pretty amazing stuff going on.  You are sure to find something you love when you stop by her site.  You don’t want to miss out.  Be sure to check her out here.

Rules of the award:

1. Thank the Liebster Blog presenter who nominated you, with link back to their blog.  (check)
2. Answer the 11 questions you were asked and create 11 of your own questions to ask your nominees.  (check)
3. Nominate 11 blogs of your choice: new, old, just found, following, or you think deserve some notice; and let them know they’ve been nominated!  (working on this one) (check x 11)
4. Show off the Award photo on your blog! (double check)
5. No tag backs–meaning you can’t just re-nominate the person who nominated you.  (aww man, ok check)

And now drum roll please…. the moment we have all been waiting for…. The questions Wandering Angel wanted me to spill the beans about:
1)Apart from blogging what other form of social media do you like to use to express yourself and why?

This is actually it.  Don’t do the Facebook thing (too many nosy faces on there lol)  too often or Twitter but may start for the purposes of this blog.

2)Relationships is a big part of my blog. What would you say is your most memorable/influential relationship to date and why?

Most recent one, the one I write about and started this blog as a result of.  We had our challenges (mostly me as you can see), and while he had his flaws he was really a great guy and in many ways he taught me so much and did so much for me I reckon I will probably never forget him as much as I try.

3)Where do you see your blog in a year’s time?

Getting a publishing deal?  Having a movie made out it?  Yunno the usual. 😉

4) Why did you chose WordPress as a platform as opposed to other blogging sites?

I have used WordPress before and love it.  I’m familiar with how to navigate it.  So yeah.

5) Which of your posts are you most proud of? (Do please add a link)

Believe it or not…. Call Him While He’s At Work

6) Describe yourself in three words

Insightful, reflective, innovative

7) What five things would you take on a desert island?

  1. The Love of my life (where ever he is)
  2. Mountain Valley Spring Water (or Fiji)
  3. Laptop
  4. AC
  5. Suntan lotion (lol)

8) What’s your favorite quote (assuming you have one)?

“Failure may be defined as the wrong way to do something.  Therefore, failure has advantageous elements in that it tells us how not to proceed.  And when you know how something should not be done, you are in a better position to learn how it should be done”.  -Norman Vincent Peale

9) What’s your favorite, non-technology based, thing to do?


10) If you weren’t blogging right now, what would you typically be doing?

Lesson planning and teaching

11) What major tip would you give to someone new to the blogging world?

Write your heart out.  Express your self freely, love what you do and don’t change what you do or who you are no matter what.

And now…

Without further ado, I present my nominees for the Liebster Award (and don’t forget your questions, they are listed below).

[Man I wish I could have nominated more than 11 *sigh*]

  1. Thingsmyexsaid
  2. Tanara McCauley
  3. Single, Not Hopeless
  5. College Thrive
  6. Some Fabulous Chick’s Blog
  7. Of Fries and Men
  8. Amateur Expert
  9. Date Laugh Repeat
  10. Truth’s Unveiling
  11. 1 Year of Single

Best part… questions 🙂  :

  1. Maya Angelou said “I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way (s)he handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.”  How do you handle all three?
  2. Greatest regret?
  3. Something you would like to improve about yourself?
  4. Something you’ve done that you never thought you’d ever be able to?
  5. Better to have loved and lost or to never have loved at all?
  6. What is your dream career/job?  (Are you currently doing it?)
  7. Song you just can’t get enough of right now?
  8. If you had known then what you know now…
  9. Book that literally changed your life?
  10. Most meaningful piece of advice you were ever given in life/love?
  11. Were you a bad pick or bad picker in your relationships?