Exactly How To Ruin Started

Who wants a failed relationship?success

I’m sure no one does.  But we all do things without even realizing it, that will lead us down UN-lover’s lane.  And  as hard as it may be to accept, despite the pain it causes, there are some valuable lessons to be learned if we are willing to take an honest, humorous and hopeful look within ourselves and make an earnest effort to change.  There is still a lot of learning and unlearning to do.

I can not lie and say I have figured out exactly what to do to have a successful relationship.  But I can surely tell you from my own experiences WHAT NOT TO DO if you plan on having any type of long, lasting, fulfilling, enjoyable relationship.

But on the other hand,  if you sincerely are trying to end your relationship than by all means, you can definitely get some tips from this site as well.

After a two year, on and off again relationship, complete with engagement, sharing a residence, bed, bank account and a life, ended, I learn that my ex just got married after three months of  “us” officially being over.   Imagine my devastation.

After many tears and regrets, came the influx of memories, followed by feelings of hurt and resentment, I decided to start this blog.

The only remedy I’ve learned for regret, is to:

  1. Become fully aware of the part you played (actions and/or inactions)
  2. Accept that you can never go back into the past to clean up the mess you made (thank you Bruno Mars)
  3. Do the very best you can to not make the same mistakes that caused you to feel regret in future situations

And so the blog, How to Ruin Relationships, results from all the mistakes I made that caused me to lose a relationship I actually really wanted but now can never get back.

Hope you can learn a thing or two from these relationships blunders and bloopers before they sabotage your relationship.

While I’m no expert on how to make a relationship last, I am certainly an expert on the wrong way to do things.  So within that lies my hope, the potential to learn…

“Failure may be defined as the wrong way to do something.  Therefore, failure has advantageous elements in that it tells us how not to proceed.  And when you know how something should not be done, you are in a better position to learn how it should be done”.  -Norman Vincent Peale

19 Responses to “Exactly How To Ruin Started”

  1. thewanderingangel July 23, 2013 at 7:57 pm #

    Hey, I really like your blog! I’ve nominated you for the Liebster Award. Click on the link below and follow the instructions to claim your nomination! Look forward to reading your next post! http://thewanderingangel.wordpress.com/2013/07/23/liebster-award-nice-to-be-noticed/

    • Living&Learning July 23, 2013 at 10:21 pm #

      You so rock. You are too kind.
      Thank you!!!!

      • thewanderingangel July 23, 2013 at 10:31 pm #

        You’re more than welcome. Your blog is so entertaining it was only logical

  2. Sara Ann July 25, 2013 at 9:17 pm #

    Hilarious! And practical. Love it!

    • Living&Learning July 25, 2013 at 9:22 pm #

      why thank you!!!!!
      thanks for stopping by 🙂

  3. officialjewelinc July 29, 2013 at 8:44 pm #

    Haha I LOVE IT! I think my booboo would agree with you 100%! Keep it up, girl! Maybe we can collaborate sometime in the future.

    Much Love, Respect, and All the Best Wishes!

    Jewel, xoxo

    • Living&Learning July 29, 2013 at 10:32 pm #

      Awww thanks so much. I appreciate you stopping by and all the support and encouragement.
      @ collaborating: just say the word missy!!!

  4. butimbeautiful July 30, 2013 at 2:19 am #

    I’ll be interested to read about it. Could come in useful IF I ever have another relationship, which is looking increasingly doubtful 🙂

  5. betsydecruz August 9, 2013 at 8:21 pm #

    Best wishes with your blog. I see you started in July. Looks like you have some interesting content.

    • Living&Learning August 12, 2013 at 1:10 am #

      Thank you, thank you.
      Appreciate you paying me a visit. Do come back anytime.

  6. intiml August 13, 2013 at 8:45 pm #

    This is the funniest thing I have EVER read in my life. Thank you for being such a ballsy woman, and writing such a fun blog.

    • Living&Learning August 13, 2013 at 9:52 pm #

      Why thank you!!!

      I’m honored considering how awesome your blog is as well.
      Please do stop by as often as you like. Your thoughts welcome! 🙂

  7. JenerationLife August 25, 2013 at 1:20 am #

    Hi I really love your blog! I’d like to nominate you for a Liebster Award!


    • Living&Learning August 25, 2013 at 2:30 am #

      Little ol me? Why thank you so much!!!! I am truly honored. I’ll work on my response post over the next couple of days!!! 🙂 You so rock, thank you again.

  8. Audrey August 26, 2013 at 12:16 am #

    Hey! I nominated you for an award 🙂 http://audreyalwaysxo.wordpress.com/2013/08/25/another-liebster-award/ I love how unique your blog is!

    • Living&Learning August 26, 2013 at 1:00 am #

      Me??? Oh why thank you!!!!!!


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