About a month ago, I started this blog.
At the same time, a month ago, my ex got married. (Please don’t judge me).
[Side note: In case you didn’t know:
- Number of months since I last saw/spent time with him: 4
- Number of months ago that we last discussed reconsidering marriage: 3
- Number of months after we “officially” ended things that he got married: 3
- Number of days ago that I closed our joint account: 2
- Number of things left to dispose of that remind me of him: 1 pair of extremely comfy boxers]
And while the inception of this blog was a very bitter one, YOU ALL have been making it that much sweeter.
Truth of the matter is I never imagined in a million years that Adele’s hit single, Someone Like You, would become the soundtrack of my life. Never imagined I would feel that way about anyone until… him. (Heck, I was kinda glad to get rid of the other exes, truth be told).
I never thought I would even think about pulling an Adele, like seriously, turning up out of the blue uninvited to tell him it’s not over for you even after he is married and has already moved on?
Like get a life. Seriously…
Better yet get a new man…
Leave him alone…
(This is how I used to think)
But… you live… you love… and sometimes you lose people that you love before death does you part. Sometimes for reasons you can’t control and other times for reasons you caused. And when love hurts, then songs like hers make perfect sense.
And if you’re lucky enough you can make some type of fame, fortune, success or a really good hit song out it (or in my case a blog :-D)
So as I celebrate one month of blogging here I have to celebrate you my readers, followers, fans and friends!!!
THANK YOU ALL!!!!
Your support through this time has been invaluable!!! (Can’t believe people actually read this stuff. You guys so rock for that!!!)
Now the good stuff. Some blog stats I am proud to share (in one month’s time):
- Number of Followers: 124
- Number of Likes: 100
- Number of Views: 1,076
- Most views in one day: 88
- Top Three Posts:
- Be Selfish (12 Likes)
- Compare Him to Other Men (9 Likes)
- Refuse to Be Happy (8 Likes)
- Top Two Most Commented on Posts:
- About-How to Ruin Got Started: 13 comments
- Hang Up on Him: 7 comments
- Top Posts my Mom Laughed the Hardest at while reading: (she could relate to them the most lol)
- Published a total of : 21 Posts
- Total Number of Comments: 60 (mine included :-))
- Total Number of Awards Nominated for: 1 (Yay, thanks again The Wandering Angel)
(Special shout out to those nominees who so graciously responded: College Thrive, Truth’s Unveiling, Some Fabulous Chick’s Blog)
(To those nominees who are so busy being so wonderful: Thingsmyexsaid, Tanara McCauley, Single, Not Hopeless, FLAWSOME GLAM, Of Fries and Men, Date Laugh Repeat, 1 Year of Single I still think you are wonderful. I’m. Still. Waiting ;-))
And like Adele, there are some things I’ll remember he said…
- In love you have to choose your battles (everything can’t be an argument).
- Don’t be a victim (acknowledge the part you play in things and the choices you make).
- The only thing better than being single is being with the right person and the only thing better than being with the wrong person is being single.
- Don’t tell someone you’re leaving if you really don’t intend on leaving.
And there you have it folks. The run down. One month and counting for How To Ruin A Relationship… but ehh who’s counting?
How To Ruin A Relationship 
You write from the heart which always, to me, seems the best way. These moments are extremely sad but in a short time you can look back on these moments with affection without the hollow feeling you now feel. I wish you all the very best. Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Thanks so much for your kind words and for paying me a visit!!!
I started INTIML during a time when I was caught between a ‘friends with benefits’ relationship and being completely confused by it and having to realize I was still very much a single woman. Sometimes having others read our emotions helps with the healing process. I’m sorry about your heartbreak; you’re not alone, just keep in mind that there is a bigger plan, with an even bigger love for you. At least, that’s what keeps me going on.
Absolutely! You are spot on!!! Thank you so much!!!
Wow. The “M” word after only 3 months? That would have killed me. You’re certainly handling it with far more grace than I would have ever been able to conjure up. It takes a magnificently strong person to turn pain into growth rather than resentment. I truly admire you for that. You have an amazing blog and I can’t wait to catch up on all I’ve missed! Keep inspiring!
Yup 3 months.
I definitely have my moments, trust me but at the end of the day, I can’t change him and the choices he has made… but I can change myself. It is a painful feeling none the less, one that words can’t describe, but the love and appreciation for what we had when we had it drives out the resentment, but not the pain oddly enough.
In any event, thank you so much for all your support and encouragement!!! 🙂 Hope you are feeling better.
Perhaps you should now write about how to get the man of your dreams and your partner for life. Don’t think about the things that went wrong, new things will go wrong. Being there for one another, and putting them right together, is surely the most important thing? We can all join you on your venture to find this new partner. The past is past. The future is the future. Change directions and good luck.
I did give some thought to what else I would/could/should write, yours is a wonderful suggestion and one that I will devote some time and attention to.
Thanks so much!!!! :-).
Within every sad scenario is the potential for a happy change. (I just made that up! Not bad huh?) You seem very honest, very open and your name “Living and Learning” is just right. But it does suggest that there is this place you are trying to get to, and only by learning from your mistakes will you achieve this. That’s not right. You look pretty, you can write well, you are honest an open, you can put feelings into words, and you are willing to look at both sides of everything. I don’t know you but already I know what I have written. I suggest you take these plus factors, together with others you no doubt have, and go on to conquer the world. Without worrying about if you fail. Perhaps you should change your name to “Onwards and upwards”. I look forward to reading about your route to realising all your dreams and aspirations. I don’t read all blogs, but will definately follow yours. Good luck!
You have given me much to think about.
Your words of wisdom are greatly appreciated!!!
I do love the onward and upward suggestion.
Thank you for your support and encouragement 🙂
i love your honesty.
Thank you so much.
And thanks for dropping by!!!!
Congrats on one month of this amazing blog! It’s so great that you decided to channel your emotions into something positive rather than negative. I may copy your idea of a one month blog post–today is mine! (: xo
Thanks Kelly!!!!
Go for it! Congrats on your 1 month!!!!!!
Congratulations on reaching your one month anniversary with blogging. I’m glad you’re doing something for you (and connecting with others at the same time.) 🙂
Thank you so much!!!!!!!!