Archive | August, 2013

Versatile Blogger Award, I Could Cry

29 Aug


Had I just not posted an entry about crying, I would do just that but….  considering that I just did……

I think I’ll just say thank you soooooooo much!!!

Audrey dearest over at Like Crazy, thank you so much again for your kindness and thinking enough of me to include me in on this one as well.  You rock!

Here are the rules:

Display the Award Certificate on your blog.
Announce your win with a post. Make sure you post a link back to me as a ‘thank you’ for the nomination.
Present 15 awards to 15 deserving bloggers.
Leave them a comment to let them know after you have linked them to a post.
Post 7 interesting things about yourself.

Seven “Interesting” Things about Me:

  1. While I don’t sing nearly as often as I used to, I have sang the National Anthem at two hockey games before
  2. I tried out for America’s Next Top Model when they did 5′ 7” and under and made it though to the second round!
  3. I believe that fashion sense is a sixth sense (one that I could use a whole lot more of, hence my appreciation for those of you with fashion blogs and why I find Project Runway intriguing).
  4. While my mother is Puerto Rican (and my dad is African American) people usually just take me to be a light skinned black girl and my lack of knowledge of the Spanish language does not help at all
  5. I have driven a total of 15 hours straight by myself and crossed from one time zone in the US to another
  6. I have been blogging for 5 years and have had two other blogs before this one
  7. I have yet to travel outside of the continental U.S.

My Nominees (Yay now I can nominate people who I love with potentially more than 200 followers):

  1. Nikkyslovecorner
  2. Truth’s Unveiling
  3. College Thrive
  4. 30 dates by 30
  5. Social Life With Jewel
  6. Style Me B.A.D.
  7. Hello Beautiful
  8. The Better Man Project
  9. Still Learning to Be
  10. Almost 30-Something
  11. Confessions of a Love Addict
  12. BDevereaux
  13. Kate Styled Pretty
  14. Sex and the Cincy
  15. Lady Romp

What a way to wrap up the month!  Thank you guys for all your support and loyalty and comments and likes and nominations.  It truly means the absolute world to me!!!!

#20: Cry

28 Aug

Go on and cry him a river girl (thanks Justin)

All the time.

For everything.

Any where.  Anytime.  In front of any and everyone.

Do this instead of talking.

In fact, don’t even tell him why you’re crying.

Just sob.

If he says he doesn’t like how your food came out, just start crying.

If you feel he doesn’t spend enough time with you, cry.

When you don’t know what else to do…

When you don’t know what else to say…

When all else fails… just cry.

Make sure it is a real ugly looking cry too, don’t try to be cute with it than it will look too staged.

If you want attention.  You want him to put his arm around you and ask you what’s wrong.

Just start boo-hooing.

And then when he asks you what’s wrong, just tell him the truth and say “Oh it’s nothing”.

He’ll think you are withholding something and keep asking you when really, nothing is wrong.

Want to stop or win an argument?  Start crying.

Crying will allow you do:

  1. Distract from a real issue or
  2. Manipulate him into doing what you want

Release the water works.

He will never get sick of this or frustrated in the least bit.

He will think your cry baby tendencies are endearing and just want to be around you more and more.

Because this is what mature, grown women do!

And we understand that mature grown men expect this of their women and don’t know how else to respond to a woman crying but than to just give in to what she wants to make the crying stop.  Mission accomplished:  getting your way!!!


**Standing O**

And when that happens just go on and take your bow.

And people thought excessive crying was just a sign of immaturity or emotionally instability… pffffftttt.

Liebster Award #3 for Meeee?

27 Aug


Okay, okay, okay.

I just…

I mean…


I. Can’t. Believe. This.

This is a total shock to me.  You people actually read this and like it!!!

I am so overjoyed, overwhelmed, and every other ‘over’ word that means happy!!!

Thank you.  Thank you.  Thank you.

Audrey you amazing blogger you!!!  She has a really fun blog that is such an honest, transparent and sincere account of her journey through life.  Always something interesting going on there.  Please do pay her a visit ASAP at Like Crazy.

The Liebster Award Rules:  
You must link back the person who nominated you.
You must answer the 10 Liebster questions given to you by the nominee before you.
You must pick 10 bloggers to be nominated for the award with under 200 followers
You must come up with 10 questions for your nominees to answer.
You must go to their blogs and notify your nominees.

And the questions she asked:

1. What is your favorite season and why?

It used to be winter because I used to like cold weather and thought my winter wardrobe was really nice but after living in a state where there was no winter, I have come to learn that life without winter is doable, life without summer not so much.  I enjoy being outdoors, the sunshine, beautiful blue skies  and the ability to just throw on a maxi dress and nothing more and get outside!!!!

2. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Toughie.  I really hope to be married with 0 kids, I repeat ZERO kids, enjoying my husband, doing the job I do now, and maybe being interviewed for a newly released book or something.

3. What advice would you give your 21 year old self?

Okay so I am slightly over 21 (by just a little ;-)) so that would leave me looking back at myself a couple of years ago and I would have told myself:  Please just love you and yourself for who you are.  Find out who you are.  Find out what you love.  Start thinking about who you want to be.  Don’t be so harsh with yourself.  So what you don’t look like the girls on TV or on magazines but that doesn’t mean you are not beautiful.  Don’t zero in on one feature that you don’t like and draw false, unflattering conclusions about your self.  You are some kind of wonderful, embrace that, own that and live your best life for you and no one else.

4. Do you play an instrument? If so, what? If not, what would you play if you decided to take lessons?

I played the violin in 3rd grade but I quit.  That makes me sad.  Wish I had been forced to continue.  I also fool around with the keyboard once in a while.

5. What is your favorite TV show?

I rarely ever watch TV, let alone have a regular show that I must watch but really have had an obsession with MONK at one point and Project Runway is always amazing when I can catch it.

6. Have you ever met anyone famous?

I have been on the set of Ugly Betty, Step Up 3D, and Let’s Stay Together, so I have SEEN some famous people, that’s close enough to met right? LOL

7. If you could relive any day of your life, what day would you choose?

A snowy day in February a couple of years ago… sitting across the table from him on our first “date”… the look in his eyes was one of pure admiration…. things were good then.

8. What is your favorite number?

I’m going to go with the number 7 because it is the month I was born.

9. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why?

Lust, physical attraction and interest at first sight yes… love?  no

Love is an informed decision one makes after having gathered more information about a person than what meets the eye.  Love requires a degree of maturity and knowledge that supersedes anything superficially presented at first sight.

10. Do you think you’ll continue blogging a year from now?

Absolutely, no doubt in my mind!!!

And now for the nominees:

  1. Corner of Rain
  2. Girls Being Girls
  3. 1000 Days Spent 100% Man Free
  4. Whiskey in a Teacup
  5. Simple Life, Simple Love
  6. Faith Spilling Over
  7. MsKiasway
  8. Revival of a Sunny Disposition
  9. Lexil0uu

Here are your rules:

The Liebster Award Rules:  
You must link back the person who nominated you.
You must answer the 10 Liebster questions given to you by the nominee before you.
You must pick 10 bloggers to be nominated for the award with under 200 followers
You must come up with 10 questions for your nominees to answer.
You must go to their blogs and notify your nominees.

Here are your questions:

  1. If you could have a guest blogger post for you, who would it be and why?
  2. The key to happiness is…
  3. Top 3 qualities you look for in a significant other?
  4. Favorite movie of all time?
  5. Two things you have done that have not helped your relationships?
  6. The most important quality you bring to a relationship?
  7. This time next year…
  8. What is something you have been putting off doing and why?
  9. Most memorable vacation?
  10. Favorite store to shop at?

Announcing 2nd Liebster Award :O

26 Aug

liebster-awardHuge shout out to Jeneration Life who thought enough of little ol’ me to nominate me for this award.  Her blog is extremely thoughtful, encouraging and loaded with inspirational tidbits on a variety of subjects (from life to love) that is sure to keep you  going back for more.  Be sure to check her out here.

What can I say, except that I am deeply honored and overjoyed at this, the second nomination for the Liebster Award.  Maybe the second time around will be the charm (especially since I won’t be eligible once I get more than 200 followers!  🙂    This award after, is designed to recognize up and coming blogs with less that 200 followers because let’s face it, we have some pretty terrific stuff going on on our sites too yunno; as my nominees will also prove!!! 🙂

To All My Nominees:  The Liebster Award Rules:  
You must link back the person who nominated you.  (Jeneration Life, you rock!!!)
You must answer the 10 Liebster questions given to you by the nominee before you. (Some of them were tough, but I managed :-))
You must pick 10 bloggers to be nominated for the award with under 200 followers (Made some pretty good suggestions 😀 they all rock)
You must come up with 10 questions for your nominees to answer. (Got em)
You must go to their blogs and notify your nominees. (Ah yes the toughest part ;-))

The questions I had to answer:

1. You are on a deserted island, what 3 things would you choose to have with you?

I’ll keep it real basic:  music, notepad, writing instrument (preferably Uniball pens in a variety of colors :-))

2. What are your 3 favorite all time books?

I must confess I usually do not read books for entertainment purposes (I read blogs for that).  Books are usually for informational /personal growth/motivational purposes:

100 Ways to Motivate Yourself: Change Your Life Forever

Six Attitudes for Winners

Happiness Is…

3. What drives you to write? Meaning, what gives you that fire?

Everyday life experiences.  Seeing the same old things in new ways and sharing these insights with other people.

4. How do you wish your blog to be in a year?

Very hard to answer this question.  Hmmm… a very well known blog, referenced with regard to relationships, a book…. idk.  But come to think of it, after just watching the VMA’s like we need one of those award shows for bloggers.  And if we did get one, yeah I’d like one for this blog a year from now 😀

(WordPress. Make. It. Happen)

5. What ways are you trying to build up an audience for your blog, if any.

Visiting and reading other people’s blogs, giving credit where credit is due and leaving comments on others pages if I see something I like or enjoyed (people are usually kind enough to return the favor).  Oh yes and bullying everyone who knows me into reading my blog and telling all their friends about it 🙂

6. What do you think of blogging so far?

I have had several other blogs and have been blogging for ahhh let’s just say 5 years (previous blog if you are interested: The Boo-Less Life) but I love it and this one is by far the one that I have enjoyed the most and have gotten the most support for.  I love blogging.  The community and support you get from readers and fellow bloggers is nothing short of AMAZING.

7. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?

I’m just going to say Hawaii because who wouldn’t want to live there and it’s never gonna happen. lol

8. Name 3 things on your bucket list.

  1. Visit Puerto Rico
  2. Write a book
  3. Produce a hit single

9. What was the initial reason you started blogging?

To get things out of my system without having to drive those closest to me insane because I want to keep talking about the same things. LOL.

10. What is your favorite topic to write about?

Why, love of course.

Nominees, these people rock and always have something entertaining, insightful and informative going on:

  1. Be the Love of Life
  2. Wandering Angel
  3. For When Love Starts to Hurt
  4. Social Life With Jewel
  5. Rinse and/or Repeat
  6. Out of My Element
  7. Oldmoaner52’s Blog
  8. AJ5911’s Blog
  9. I Need This In My Life
  10. I am Out there Somewhere


  1. Who is one person you really enjoy spending time with?
  2. One thing you (can) do for yourself everyday that (would) make(s) you happy?
  3. What is a bad habit of yours?
  4. What is something you are proud of yourself for?
  5. One thing you like most about your blog/blogging?
  6. Something very many people do not know about you?
  7. Something you accomplished that you thought you wouldn’t be able to?
  8. If you were an actor/actress and had to perform a crying scene, what would you think about to help you cry on the spot?
  9. Maya Angelou said:  “I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way (s)he handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.”  What three things do you think can tell you a lot about a person?
  10. Agree or disagree:  Your happiness is directly connected to the speed of your internet connection?

And there you have it folks.  I would really love to Taylor Swift this thing yunno, thank the guy that led me to get a blog award!! 😀

Cute Video Alert

25 Aug

It’s okay if I post things other than how to ruin a relationship right?  I just had to share this.

Not only do I love this song, this Lego version of the video is amazing!

Something to listen to until my next post 🙂

#19: Planning Your Break-Up?

24 Aug

So, no I have never done this but I mean this is like…. it.  This is a better idea than I would have been able to come up with independently for coupleruining a relationship but exactly what happens in the movie called Breaking Upwards that I watched the other day.

So either I’m extremely late and you all know about this movie and have watched it a thousand times, or I’m just about to introduce one of the best movies about relationships to you and potentially give you the relationship, ahem I mean  show stopper with regard to how to ruin your relationships (as if the ones I have provided already haven’t worked. :-))

You can thank me later.

Breaking Upward Steps: 

  1. Party 1 decides the relationship isn’t working for them anymore (for whatever reason:  boredom, need to grow, it’s not them it’s you, or it is in fact them and not you) and proposes that they need to break up, but incrementally
  2. Party 1 and Party 2 decide what days of the week they will see each other and communicate and what days out of the week each party is free to do what they please (this includes seeing other people, not informing the other party and absolutely no communication)
  3. Enjoy each others company on days on (complete with family engagements, parties, business as usual, etc.).  Discussion of things done and with whom on days off completely optional.
  4. “Do you” as if you were single on days off (turn it up, on, etc).
  5. Reconvene after specified amount of time to discuss where you two should go from here (get back into a REAL relationship, continue with the on/off days or terminate all together).

Basically it is planned, allowed and condoned cheating until both parties are involved with someone else and then you two go your separate ways and the opposite of cold turkey break-ups.

See Trailer here.  Um only thing is it came out in 2009:

Celebrating 1 Month, 100 Likes and Followers

19 Aug

About a month ago, I started this blog.adele

At the same time,  a month ago, my ex got married.  (Please don’t judge me).

[Side note:  In case you didn’t know:

  • Number of months since I last saw/spent time with him:  4
  • Number of months ago that we last discussed reconsidering marriage:  3
  • Number of months after we “officially” ended things that he got married: 3
  • Number of days ago that I closed our joint account:  2
  • Number of things left to dispose of that remind me of him:  1 pair of extremely comfy boxers]

And while the inception of this blog was a very bitter one, YOU ALL have been making it that much sweeter.

Truth of the matter is I never imagined in a million years that Adele’s hit single, Someone Like You, would become the soundtrack of my life.  Never imagined I would feel that way about anyone until… him.  (Heck, I was kinda glad to get rid of the other exes, truth be told).

I never thought I would even think about pulling an Adele, like seriously, turning up out of the blue uninvited to tell him it’s not over for you even after he is married and has already moved on?

Like get a life.  Seriously…

Better yet get a new man…

Leave him alone…

(This is how I used to think)

But… you live… you love… and sometimes you lose people that you love before death does you part.  Sometimes for reasons you can’t control and other times for reasons you caused.  And when love hurts, then songs like hers make perfect sense.

And if you’re lucky enough you can make some type of fame, fortune, success or a really good hit song out it (or in my case a blog :-D)

So as I celebrate one month of blogging here I have to celebrate you my readers, followers, fans and friends!!!baloons


Your support through this time has been invaluable!!! (Can’t believe people actually read this stuff.  You guys so rock for that!!!)

Now the good stuff.  Some blog stats I am proud to share (in one month’s time):

  • Number of Followers:  124
  • Number of Likes:  100
  • Number of Views:  1,076
  • Most views in one day:  88
  • Top Three Posts:
  1. Be Selfish (12 Likes)
  2. Compare Him to Other Men (9 Likes)
  3. Refuse to Be Happy (8 Likes)
  • Top Two Most Commented on Posts:
  1. About-How to Ruin Got Started:  13 comments
  2. Hang Up on Him:  7 comments
  • Top Posts my Mom Laughed the Hardest at while reading: (she could relate to them the most lol)
  1. Hang Up on Him
  2. Let Yourself Go
  • Published a total of :  21 Posts
  • Total Number of Comments:  60 (mine included :-))

(Special shout out to those nominees who so graciously responded: College Thrive, Truth’s Unveiling, Some Fabulous Chick’s Blog)

(To those nominees who are so busy being so wonderful: ThingsmyexsaidTanara McCauley, Single, Not HopelessFLAWSOME GLAMOf Fries and Men, Date Laugh Repeat, 1 Year of Single I still think you are wonderful. I’m. Still. Waiting ;-))

And like Adele, there are some things I’ll remember he said

  • In love you have to choose your battles (everything can’t be an argument).
  • Don’t be a victim (acknowledge the part you play in things and the choices you make).
  • The only thing better than being single is being with the right person and the only thing better than being with the wrong person is being single.
  • Don’t tell someone you’re leaving if you really don’t intend on leaving.

And there you have it folks.  The run down.  One month and counting for How To Ruin A Relationship… but ehh who’s counting?